The Fuck-Buddy Relationship

28 Jan

The fuck-buddy, or friends with benefits, relationship can be very mutually rewarding, but it should not be entered into lightly. No matter what you tell each other (or yourself), your friendship is not going to stay the same. There’s just something about seeing a person naked that changes things. We would also recommend choosing a friend outside of your immediate friend circle if possible in order to avoid any future awkwardness between the two of you, and among the rest of your friends. If you do end up with a close friend, don’t delude yourself into thinking you can keep it a secret. At the very least, your suitemates will know (and, depending on the girl, think you’re a total boss or a complete idiot).

Also, don’t be surprised if it ends badly. We here at the Man’s Guide have yet to see a fuck-buddy relationship end without either party getting hurt. The way these things usually play out goes something like this: you two have been having sex for a while, one of you thinks it’s going great, the other has developed feelings and wants to have a relationship. Cue fights, tears and awkwardness. Or, you just end up in a relationship eventually, whether you want to be or not.

But if you’ve decided it’s worth the risk, there are a few things to keep in mind. Sex with a fuck-buddy is not just a hook up with the same person multiple times. There is a difference, and that means the sex should be different. In a hook up, it’s not really expected (or encouraged) that you be particularly adventurous, but with a fuck-buddy, there is greater opportunity to explore and experiment. A fuck-buddy relationship can be the perfect opportunity to discover or indulge your sexual interests and/or improve your skills. You are going to be with the same partner multiple times and it is important that you consider and accommodate their interests too. This isn’t all about you, be generous, often. After all, you want her to keep having sex with you, right?

Both of you should also respect the other person’s feeling and have a conversation about what you expect of the other. Is it okay to hook up with other people? Will she mind if you go to screw with someone else? How much time should you spend together outside of the bedroom? Having good communication – both about feelings and about sex – is essential to having a working sexual relationship.As best you can, keep your relationship confined to the bedroom (or bathroom, or classroom). Try to avoid allowing the intimacy you sometimes share from spilling over into your non-sexual interactions. That’s how feelings get confused and people get hurt.

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4 Responses to “The Fuck-Buddy Relationship”

  1. Raj3157 February 23, 2013 at 11:44 PM #

    Very smart and forward thinking
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    • Rene April 3, 2013 at 9:03 AM #

      Please a fuck buddy is a way a man manipulates a women to give him sex for free. If prostitution was legal there would be no need for fuck buddies. If a man want sexual service from a woman with no strings what he is telling her is . ,,, Your good enough to fk but not good enough to date. Is that really a turn on. I think NOT. I had a man ask me to be his fuck buddy. Once he laid down the rules it told him what you want is a hooker and therefor I want to be paid for my services. Of course he declined. LOL they want something for nothing Ladies wise up.

  2. mins August 21, 2013 at 12:41 AM #

    In response to Rene – what makes you think it is all men who desire this type of situation? You make it sound so degrading. However, I am a woman and think this works wonderfully for me. I have found a man via dating that I decided was not necessarily a long term match prospect but certainly a fuck buddy match. I am happy with having proposed such arrangement as I am sure he is 😉

  3. Nancy August 31, 2013 at 7:06 PM #

    FB is not a good idea. I had it twice and I got hurt. Girls usually cannot separate their feeling with sex. I think it is good for the undergraduate or young girls who just want have fun

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